Men helping Men

It helps the Women out as well.

It is the absolute trust to just speak yourself. It invites the light of others to look into you, where so many shadows are only in your own head. Some will shine hard and burn away your shadows — to hold you to account for this bullshit you are building. You build with the earth, wood, stone, etc.. anything you build to hide that is thin with excuse.. it is not useful and thus must go.

I think one of the most healthy things, something Peterson started, is to have honest dialogue in men. The common man is not projected very well. Then you have the over indulgence in sexuality that turns any more intimate talk into into perversion. The deliberate effort has hurt society as a hole.

Men cannot generally go to another man and show weakness. It is so often now considered submission, which carries sexuality, humility, perceived loss of cultural standing, alpha/sigma concepts, etc. The list goes on.

This is the same with women, but less of a problem. We are going to struggle with them, and them with us. This is just an age old wisdom.

Perhaps my perception is wrong, but I feel like men going to men for genuine help. That is tied to core principals that promote confidence, focus, sense of obligation to family and community, etc.. It was a very Canadian thing for a long time — to just help your neighbor because they needed it. The guy across the street will plow out my driveway out of sheer good will, he also does the driveway of the widow just next door to him. Just because. I'm trying to think of how to pay him back that isn't just buying him a six pack.

To my point though, we used to have a culture of people helping people. It is not to say that this does not still happen, but perhaps not in the wholesale potential that could be seen if everyone tried. People looked out for people. People now look out for systems, which are supposed to take care of the people... well they are not.

So men can do a heck of a lot to help other men. It does start with having a frank conversation, and that conversation may be riddled with swear words and a few beers. You need to build that trust, and talk about how to solve problems. How to make things better. You also have to get used to knowing how to ask for help, and how to give help. With that, comes with knowing what kind of help is needed, sometimes - you can just ask or say that. It takes time.

So when men come together and help other men, everyone will benefit again. We don't need to wait for shit to hit the fan.

We can just do better. We all aspire to be a Man, a full formed Man at the maximum of his potential. In that quest, we must also learn how to come together can be MEN.